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Let’s doodle!

June 27th, 2012

Hey, it is playtime!

Let’s doodle!

A course on having fun. Interested? Come along!

a 1,5-day course during which

you will not

  • analyse yourself or others
  • talk about your parents or other relatives
  • talk about your past
  • talk about your pains and aches
  • talk about your future or your goals in life
  • think much

however you will

  • play, create, draw, paint, etc
  • be creative
  • communicate with yourself via different art forms
  • learn to look at things and life differently
  • meet the creative ‘child’ within
  • get dirty with creation
  • have great fun

Possible result of taking part is that you will reconnect with the energy source of  your creativity and enthusiasm for life

Techniques used : right-brain drawing methods and art-therapy methods

Trainer: Ildiko Kudlik, a child at heart, artist/coach (for more information see other pages of site)

Language: English/Hungarian

Place: wherever YOU organize it on the globe *

Minimum number of participants: 10

Price: 130 EUR or USD/person (between 10-15 participants); 110 EUR or USD/person (from 16  participants up)  for the 1,5-day course  (all material included) + room hire + travel + boarding expenses of trainer and self *(organizer participates for free of charge)

Possible arrangement of days: Friday half day and Saturday all day or Saturday all day and Sunday half day

More information on trainer and course

Contact info – ildiko@kudlik.hu

Harold Pinter: the Lover and Creativity

June 24th, 2012

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Read the Lover here

Harold Pinter’s page

I am sure we all have a different take on what one text – in this case a play – mean depending on our previous experiences and beliefs of life. Others may have different thoughts on this play. Here comes mine.

I was very young when I read this play and I completely fell in love with it. All through the years I kept on loving it and never forgetting about it. We can say it had an impact on me. At that time, during my university years, I don’t think I knew what it was that caught me and stayed with me all this time.

After reading the first few lines of the play – you can read above – suddenly the feeling I felt while reading it the first time returned. I fell in love again, not only with the play, but the feeling the joy of creativity – that there is no limit to what we can ‘have’, feel or experience. I realized that this is how I would like to live my life, not only my love life but my entire life – full of joy and creativity under all circumstances!

Often, we think that our quality of life would be different if we had this or that instead of what we have right now. I decide what I do with what I have. I decide how to make the best of my life. I take full responsibility and make my life work; I create the life I want to live under all circumstances – I create a patchwork of life out of the materials I am provided with, instead of complaining about not having the right material.

Nobody is provided with all the ‘material’ we wish for ourselves in order to create the ‘perfect’ life we want still we can use our creativity to get the best out of what we have. And I think there are some really amazing people out there who just did that!

Creativity coaching

What do you get out of creativity coaching?
A Life that is worth Living.

More in detail, what I can offer is to support you to

  • notice the space around yourself
  • extend this space by moving your borders and boundaries beyond where they are now
  • make creative thinking appear in your everyday life and work to support you in living more successfully, with greater depth and more passion

“Of all human activities, creativity comes
closest to providing the fulfilment
we all hope to get in our lives.
Call it full-blast living.”
Mihaly Csikszentmihaly

 

The art of creative thinking by John Adair

July 11th, 2011

The importance of creative thinking today needs no emphasis, in your profession or sphere of work you will have a competitive advantage if you develop your ability to come up with new ideas. In your personal life too, creative thinking can lead to you into new paths of creative activity. In can enrich your life – through not always in the way you expect.

Creative thinking cannot be reduced to a set of sequential steps. Nevertheless one can develop processes that can help you to

  • Develop your understanding of the creative process
  • Overcome barriers or blocks to having new ideas
  • Enlarge your parameters of vision
  • Learn to build on ideas as well as criticize them
  • Increase your tolerance of uncertainty and doubt
  • Listen, look and read with a creative attitude
  • Make time to think
  • Become more confident in yourself as a creative person.

Imagine that an unknown animal had been discovered deep in the judges of South America.  What does it look like? What are its winning characteristics? Take some paper now and draw it, making some notes about your sketch. So, get creative! … How does it look like?

We cannot make anything out of nothing. “… Every man starts with all there is. Everything is here – the essence and substance of all there is.” The potential materials – the elements, constituents or substances of which something can be made or composed – are all here in our universe.

Creation … is more in the mind. Perception, ideas and feelings are combined in a concept or a vision. Of course, the artist, writer or composer needs skill and technique to form on a canvas or paper what I is conceived in the mind.

The creative mind sees possibilities in them or connections that are invisible to less creative minds.

Your task as a creative thinker is to combine ideas or elements that already exist.

Summary -

  • With creativity we start with what already exists.
  • We recognize creativity where the creative person transforms the materials at hand into a new creation of enduring value.
  • He is most original who adapts form the most sources – the wider the apparent distance the greater the degree of creative thinking involved.
  • Creativity is the faculty of the mind and spirit that enable us to bring into existence, ostensibly out of nothing, something of use, order, beauty or significance.

I invent nothing; I rediscover. Rodin

Creating Creative Living with Passion

July 10th, 2011

(personal development via creativity and art) -  An interview

Her passion is people; people of all ages, race, gender or nationality.  Having travelled extensively and supported hundreds of people worldwide for the past 15 years makes her an expert in the field of personal development.

Using her artistic skills in the process she focuses mostly on creating a creative life lived with passion and commitment to oneself and one’s passion.

As a coach and mentor she is open to work with anybody – from professionals of different fields to individuals – who is willing to develop their creativity, try new things and open to make some changes so to live a life that offers satisfaction and fulfilment.

1. How did you start your own journey that lead you working with people supporting them to create a live that they can live with passion and commitment?

    Obviously it all started with my own life. I am at the moment re-creating my life to adjust it to my new passions.

    I was drawn to art and music and was pretty good at both, but I was supposed to get a proper education and have a proper job. On top of that I grew up during the ‘dark years’ of a social regime in Central Europe. Art and music was for those who had no talent for anything else.

    So, I forgot about it and went to study economy and foreign trade. I was really bad at it. So bad, that eventually I found a mid ground of becoming a teacher. I was good at languages, so I studied being an EFL teacher. I could not wait to get my degree and start doing something I actually like.

    By the way, a funny thing happened just before I went to University in 1990; I travelled to a far-away land, Mexico. I spend three months there visiting friends with my beloved grandma. What was interesting is that during this time I started drawing. These drawings were rally dark, black&white drawings.  The first impressions of what had been going on inside of me.

    Not until 1996 I continued drawing. That was the time I decided to leave my home country and try my luck elsewhere. And the drawings started to flow like a river and a few years on I started playing music too.

    The reason I shared the above is to make it easier to understand why creativity equals freedom for me. Especially freedom of choice; choice of who I want to be. Growing up during a suppressed area actually supported me greatly in cultivating a desire to get free and find myself. Often I find when we live surrounded with great comfort we forget about our dreams, we simply give in to the familiarities of life and vegetate until the end. My surrounding and constant discomfort kept me frustrated so much that the only way to ease my anger and frustration was finding out who I was and what I wanted out of my life for real.

    Along the way, I trained to be a coach and  trainer.

    Besides courage it took a great deal of creativity to set myself off on this journey and create a life I desired.

    In my beliefs – Creativity is entering into and being part of Creation itself. I cannot create without knowing the Creator within. So, my journey took me to discover my different layers until I arrived to the Creator that resides inside myself. My only task way to find out what the Creator wanted me to create, in what way It wanted me to express Us (me and Him) in the world.

    2. What are your main areas of interest as a coach and mentor?

      I do creativity coaching/mentoring.

      I believe that we are all creators, creators of our own lives but we don’t seems to use our creativity to build a life is enjoyable living. Obviously we all have challenges but when you create your life challenges almost always turn out to be great opportunities for being creative and looking out of the ‘box’ we live in. Most of us are not even aware what would make us happy – so I support my clients to search for meaning and passion on their lives to find and reach into depth and meaningful things to do.

      Most of us live life only scratching the surface of what is available to us. There is a great fountain of abundance of many different things like: joy, passion, creativity, laughter, even financial means – that we don’t even get close to because we live in a treadmill that does not even resemble a life any more.

      I do my best to support my clients to create a life they enjoy living. Obviously it is different for everybody.

      What I mean by Creativity is -

      • Creative thinking – problem solving and thinking in new paradigms
      • Creare-una-Vita – Creativity for Life – Unity and Creation – creating a Life based upon principles of Creation: I am a co-creator and I am also part of Creation – What do I want to contribute to Creation? What do I want to gain from Creating and Creation? Who am I? What are my special skills? What makes me happy? – all that leads to Self-actualization
      • Creative arts as a way of self awareness and development – Artist Way, Vein of Gold – finding our mean of transport in Creating.
      • Creating Joy and Ease in our lives – The question of Trust and Joy of Living

      All the above requires ‘Inner Communication’ in  a form of meditation. Creativity can be looked at as the result of inner communication; mediation functions like a bridge that reaches deep within the individual (psyche, emotions) then reaches up to the Source and finally the findings are expressed in the world through our creations.

      3. What age group do you work with?

        People from 10 years old onwards. The most rewarding is always working with children and young people. They usually respond very quickly to new situations and opportunities whereas adults tend to fight for their limitations until they get tired of it and find no other way out of the deadlock but looking for new ways and making changes.

        4. What do you offer to your clients?

          Individual coaching – life coaching with the approach of inducing creativity into once life and creating a creative life style that is more fun, more fulfilling, more satisfying

          Group sessions/workshops/lectures on creativity and creative living – from a few hours to a day of discussion and play; opportunity to experiment with different forms of art and music that supports greater awareness of self, own creativity, enhanced creative thinking, enhanced awareness of inner skills and opportunities for a greater life.

          Both are incorporate a type of ‘inner communication’(visualizations and meditations – whatever works best for the individual) – that I find greatly important. Learning to be with our own silence is key for inner work and touching into something greater than ourselves.

          It is a process not a quick fix. I only support my clients to step on the journey of their own and accompany them until they find their way from the point onwards they walk it themselves or with others.

          Most of my clients come back for a few more sessions to check and let me know how they are doing and clarify issues that maybe on the way for even better results.

          Teacher training: s is an area I would love to enter into. I am hoping that working with future teacher will bring in some extra support into the education of new generations. I wish teachers could bring personal development into the classroom via using creativity and different forms of music and art in a group setting.

          5. What are your contact details?

            ildiko@kudlik.hu

            www.ildikokudlik.com

            Your Life Isn’t An Accident: A Tip on Finding Your Life Path By Hershey Wier

            April 26th, 2011

            If “transitioning” is a talent, then perhaps quite a few of us can add that to our little bag of tricks. In my life, I went through several interstate moves during my childhood in the U.S. I’ve been through a few of life’s traumas and deaths of family members, I have cumulatively lived with over 60 roommates, have moved over 22 times, have lived in nine different cities, and now, as most of you reading this, live in what has become my second homeland, Japan.

            I have made so many transitions, in fact, that I now incorporate the title ‘transitionist’ on my e-mail signature line. That’s who I am. I know transition. One day, though, I realized that I had accumulated almost too many experiences, too many transitions. It was time to pare down and decide what it is I wanted to do from here on. Or, at least for the next six years. Maybe longer if it’s fulfilling, or for fewer years if it’s not. In looking back on my life thus far, I noticed that about every sixth year, I had gone through a life change. Perhaps I moved, or entered or finished some program or major project, but each change lasted for six years.

            It has been said that to understand is to perceive patterns. So, I note this six year pattern, and try to incorporate that into my future plans. Then the question for myself became, “What would you like to try out for the next six years?” Now, to answer that question, I journaled and I soul searched. One of the concepts that came out of this is what I’m going to tell you below.

            Do you ever pine away thinking “If only I had done such and such… my life would have turned out differently.” Yes, differently, but better? You don’t know that. Remember that you got to the point you are at today because of who you are. If you had a difficult home life, you may have left home early on and struck out on your own. If you were pampered by your parents with a cozy home life, perhaps you’re an adult who is still living there. Is that any better? If not, it’s time to make a move.

            Each of us made decisions at each point in time that seemed right to us at that time. Have you done the “right” thing with your life? Yes, because you did the only thing you felt you could have done at that time. Rather than kicking yourself for choices that you see now, in retrospect, could have been more wisely made, recall the circumstances that led to them. Recall the players and the options in your world at that time. Then give yourself credit for bravely facing each crux in time and making the best choice that was available to you.

            Be proud of the fact that you have a lifetime of experience that is like no other. You have developed a unique set of skills and talents. A huge bank account of experiences. How can you draw from it?

            What I mean by finding your “life path” is finding a vocation or avocation which makes you feel fulfilled. This does not necessarily mean it makes a lot of money. It is something you enjoy doing, and that you feel is one of your life’s callings. As my life has been marked by many transitions, I decided to develop work that involves writing and speaking about transition, and it is very fulfilling to me.

            Mastering Creative Anxiety By Eric Maisel, Ph.D. (3)

            April 24th, 2011

            11. Disidentification techniques
            “Disidentification” is the core idea of the branch of psychotherapy known as psychosynthesis. Rather than attaching too much significance to a passing thought, feeling, worry, or doubt, you remind yourself that you are larger than and different from all the stray, temporal events that seem so important in the moment. You do this dis-identifying primarily by watching your language. For example, you stop saying “I’m anxious” (or worse, “I’m an anxious person”) and begin to say, “I’m having a passing feeling of anxiety.” When your show comes down without a sale, instead of saying “I’m ruined” or “I’m finished,” you say, “I’m having a passing feeling of pain and disappointment.” By making these linguistic changes you fundamentally reduce your experience of anxiety.

            12. Ceremonies and rituals
            Creating and using a ceremony or ritual is a simple but powerful way to reduce your experience of anxiety. For many people lowering the lights, lighting candles, putting on soothing music and in other ways ceremonially creating a calming environment helps significantly. One particularly useful ceremony is one that you create to mark the movement from “ordinary life” to “creating time.” You might use an incantation like “I am completely stopping” in a ritual or ceremonial way to help you move from the rush of everyday life to the quiet of your creative work, repeating it a few times so that you actually do stop, grow quiet, and move calmly and effortlessly into the trance of working.

            13. Reorienting techniques
            If your mind starts to focus on some anxiety-producing thought or situation or if you feel yourself becoming too wary, watchful and vigilant, all of which are anxiety states, one thing you can do is to consciously turn your attention in another direction and reorient yourself away from your anxious thoughts and toward a more neutral stimulus. For example, instead of focusing on the audience entering the auditorium where you’re about to give a talk you might reorient yourself toward the notices on the bulletin board in the green room, paying them just enough attention to take your mind off the sounds of the audience arriving but not so much attention that you lose your sense of what you intend to say.

            14. Discharge techniques
            Anxiety and stress build up in the body and techniques that vent that stress can prove very useful. One discharge technique that actors sometimes learn to employ to reduce their experience of anxiety before a performance is to “silently scream” — to make the facial gestures and whole body intentions that go with uttering a good cleansing scream without actually uttering any sound (which would be inappropriate in most settings). Jumping jacks, pushups and strong physical gestures of all sorts can be used to help release the “venom” of stress and anxiety and pass it out of your system.

            15. Recovery work
            You can deal with mild anxiety without having to stop everything. But if your anxiety is more serious and especially if it permeates your life, affecting your ability to create, your ability to relate, your ability to dream large, and your very ability to live, then you must take your anxiety-management efforts very seriously, as seriously as you would take your efforts to recover from an addiction. One smart way to pay this kind of serious attention is by using addiction recovery ideas, for example the idea of identifying triggers, those thoughts and situations that trigger anxiety in you. Just as you might “work your program” to stay sober, you work your program to stay calm and centered.

            If you intend to create, get ready for anxiety. It is coming — and you can handle it beautifully if you use these simple tools and turn yourself into an anxiety management expert. •

            About the Author
            Eric Maisel, Ph.D., is America’s foremost creativity coach and is widely known as the creativity expert. His most recent book is Mastering Creative Anxiety.

            Based on the book Mastering Creative Anxiety © 2011 by Eric Maisel. Printed with permission of New World Library, Novato, CA. www.newworldlibrary.com

            I believe in you …

            April 21st, 2011

            Mastering Creative Anxiety By Eric Maisel, Ph.D. (2)

            April 20th, 2011

            6. Cognitive work
            Changing the way you think is probably the most useful and powerful anti-anxiety strategy. You can do this straightforwardly by 1) noticing what you are saying to yourself; 2) disputing the self-talk that makes you anxious or does not serve you; and 3) substituting more affirmative, positive or useful self-talk. This three-step process really works if you will practice it and commit to it.

            7. Incanting
            A variation on strategies five and six is to use them together and to “drop” a useful cognition into a deep breath, thinking “half” the thought on the inhale and “half” the thought on the exhale. Incantations that might serve to reduce your experience of anxiety might are “I am perfectly calm” or “I trust my resources.” Experiment with some short phrases and find one or two that, when dropped into a deep breath, help you quell your anxious feelings.

            8. Physical relaxation techniques
            Physical relaxation techniques include such simple procedures as rubbing your shoulder and such elaborate procedures as “progressive relaxation techniques” where you slowly relax each part of your body in turn. Doing something physically soothing probably does not amount to a full anxiety management practice but can prove really useful in the moment to help you calm yourself and when used in combination with your cognitive practice.

            9. Mindfulness techniques
            Meditation and other mindfulness practices that help you take charge of your thoughts and get a grip on your mind can prove very useful as part of your anxiety management program. It is not so important to become a practiced “sitter” or to spend long periods of time meditating but rather to truly grasp the idea that the contents of your mind create anxiety and that the better a job you do of releasing those thoughts and replacing them with more affirmative ones, the less you will experience anxiety.

            10. Guided imagery
            Guided imagery is a technique where you guide yourself to calmness by mentally picturing a calming image or a series of images. You might picture yourself on a blanket by the beach, walking by a lake, or swinging on a porch swing. You can use single snapshot images or combine images to such an extent that you end up with the equivalent of a short relaxation film that you play for yourself. The first step is to determine what images actually calm you by trying out various images and then, once you’ve landed on images that have the right calming effect, actually bring them to mind when you are feeling anxious.

            will be continued …

            Mastering Creative Anxiety By Eric Maisel, Ph.D.

            April 17th, 2011

            15 Anxiety Management Techniques
            Mastering Creative Anxiety by Eric Maisel
            Based on the book Mastering Creative Anxiety: 24 Lessons for Writers, Painters, Musicians & Actors
            by Eric Maisel

            Many anxieties arise as you attempt to create. There is the anxiety of facing a blank canvas and fearing that you have nothing to say or that you have something to say but won’t say it well. There is the anxiety that comes with putting yourself “out there” and risking criticism and rejection. There is the related anxiety known as performance anxiety that afflicts almost everyone. There is the anxiety associated with going into the unknown, with relinquishing control, with making choices (as the creative act is one choice after another) — innumerable anxieties arise as you try to create and as you try to find an audience for what you create.

            In order to create and to deal with all the anxiety that comes with creating, you must acknowledge and accept that anxiety is part of the process, demand of yourself that you will learn — and really practice! — some anxiety management skills, and get on with your creating and your anxiety management. There is no reason for you not to create if “all” that is standing in the way is your quite human experience of anxiety. What follows are fifteen anxiety management tools. For a further discussion of these and other techniques that you can employ, please take a look at my latest book Mastering Creative Anxiety (New World Library, 2011).

            1. Attitude choice
            You can choose to be made anxious by every new opinion you hear or you can choose to keep your own counsel. You can choose to be over-vigilant to changes in your environment and over-concerned with small problems or you can shrug such changes and problems away. You can choose to involve yourself in every controversy or you can choose to pick your battles and maintain a serene distance from most of life’s commotion. You can choose to approach life anxiously or you can choose to approach it calmly. It is a matter of flipping an internal switch — one that you control.

            2. Improved appraising
            Incorrectly appraising situations as more important, more dangerous or more negative than they in fact are raises your anxiety level. If you are a writer and consider it important what weight of paper you use to print out your manuscripts, you are making yourself anxious. If you hold it as dangerous to send out your fiction without copyrighting it because you’re afraid that someone will steal it, you are making yourself anxious. If you consider form rejection letters genuine indictments of your work, every form rejection letter will make you anxious. You can significantly reduce your experience of anxiety by refusing to appraise situations as more important, more dangerous, or more negative than they in fact are.

            3. Lifestyle support
            Your lifestyle supports calmness or it doesn’t. When you rush less, create fewer unnecessary pressures and stressors, get sufficient rest and exercise, eat a healthy diet, take time to relax, include love and friendship, and live in balance, you reduce your experience of anxiety. If your style is to always arrive chronically late, to wait until the last minute to meet deadlines, and to live in disorganization, you are manufacturing anxiety. How much harder will it be to deal with the creative anxiety in your life if your very lifestyle is producing its own magnum of anxiety?

            4. Behavioral changes
            What you actually do when you feel anxious makes a big difference. Behaviors like playing games or watching television for hours quell anxiety but waste vast amounts of your time. Behaviors like smoking cigarettes chemically quell anxiety but increase your health risks. If a ten-minute shower or a twenty-minute walk can do as good a job of reducing your anxiety as watching another hour of golf or smoking another several cigarettes, isn’t it the behavior to choose? There are many time-wasting, unhealthy, and dispiriting ways to manage anxiety — and many efficient, healthy, and uplifting ways, too.

            5. Deep breathing
            The simplest anxiety management technique is deep breathing. By stopping to deeply breathe (5 seconds on the inhale, 5 seconds on the exhale) you stop your racing mind and alert your body to the fact that you wish to be calmer. Begin to incorporate deep breaths into your daily routine, especially when you think about your creative work and when you approach your creative work.

            will be continued …

            Coaching – definitions

            April 7th, 2011

            Coaching is the art of facilitating the development, learning and performance of another. The School of Coaching

            Coaching must be learned mostly from experience. In the Inner Game approach, coaching can be defined as the facilitation of mobility. It is the art of creating an environment, through conversation and a way of being, that facilitates the process by which a person can move towards desired goals in a fulfilling manner. It requires one essential ingredient that cannot be taught: caring not only for the external result but for the person being coached. Timothy, Gallwey, The Inner Game of Work